Most people automatically set a goal in life when young, to buy their first apartment, their first car, and all these things that you grow up thinking that you should get. I used to be the same, because, that’s what everyone talks about: after school – work and save money so you can buy your first apartment…
I’ve been confused the last few years about what I want, after starting my own business my mind has been “fighting” between: “I wanna be free and do whatever I want”, and “I want to settle down and buy an apartment”. THEN a friend, which just bought his first apartment said to me: No one told me about this “trap”! Yes, I have my own place, but now I have to work to pay off my loan, and, I’m stuck here!
It’s not necessarily like this for everyone, but, for alot of people it is. And after this, I’ve realised that for now: I want to be free.
I’m not writing this to tell you that this way of living is “wrong”. and I’m not trying to tell you how you should live your life – What you want is up to you, and we all have different desires in life and different ideas of how we want to live our lives.
I’m writing this because I keep getting in contact with people that are sick of their life, because they feel stuck. They feel trapped in a place they don’t want to be, and that they have to go to a job they don’t like, just to pay off their loans and bills. So, I’m writing this just as an inspiration, to share that it is possible for you to do what you want, even if the rest of society tells you something else… If you want a change in your life, stop thinking about it and DO SOMETHING!
For me, the freedom of having no loans, no dept and no house or car to take care of, has taken me to amazing places. I’ve met some beautiful people that will be in my life for forever, and I’ve learned so much about myself and life. I have the freedom to be wherever I want to be. There is no place I have to be tomorrow, or next week. I’ve been able to travel around, and I book my flights to new destinations just few days before depature. And I can stay as long as I want (if the visa allowes me ofcourse) – It’s like being on a never ending vacation. If I only travelled for this long, I would probably get tired and sick of this lifestyle. But because I’m bringing my work with me, I work aswell – so I never get bored! And if I do get tired, I can extend my stay and chill in my room for a few days without anyone telling me what to do.. And the most amazing thing for me is:
I can’t remember last time I woke up to an alarm.. I go to bed and I sleep for 6-7 hours and I wake up by the daylight through my window.. Grateful? YES.
Ofcourse I want a home later, and I want my own place – I’m just not willing to do it the “normal” way, to get that loan and be stuck somewhere to pay off my dept. I want my own place when I’m ready for it and can pay for it.
So, I’m back in Asia again for a while. Back to the good, relaxing vibes, hot weather and tasty, cheap food! Ended up with a not planned weekend in Bali, which was awesome (for the third time this year! I love it) And now I’m in Bangkok, for the first time. Bangkok is a bit crazy but I like it – will write some tips and advises later..
So grateful for this freedom, and, yes, it’s far out of what used to be my comfortzone, and yes I’ve been doubting myself many times – but today I’m so grateful I’ve been pushing myself to overcome the fears and all the doubts – it’s the only way to get somewhere. If you want a change in your life, you have to change aswell. Just go for it! – Berit