Are you looking for opportunities in your life? Are you looking for a change?
Don´t be to busy looking everywhere, you might miss what´s right in front of you!
Don´t let this be you 😉 – Berit
Are you looking for opportunities in your life? Are you looking for a change?
Don´t be to busy looking everywhere, you might miss what´s right in front of you!
Don´t let this be you 😉 – Berit
I don’t have a Bachelor or Master degree. I don’t have any papers saying what I can do, or what I’m good at – But I do have something else, that I’m confident has helped me getting much longer then I would ever get with any degree alone: I never give up.
Giving up is the only thing that will stop you from reaching your goals. Just be prepared for the journey you have to go to get there, prepare for what you will have to face, and deside NOW that you will NEVER GIVE UP.
Be prepared for challenges. Be prepared to feel uncomfortable. Be prepared to fail. Be prepared to be judge. Be prepared for people laughing at you. Be prepared for doubts. Be prepared for days where you will feel like shit and want to give up. Be prepeard to get up, and keep going no matter what! Be prepared for late nights. Be prepared to work. Be prepared to WIN and to get the life and freedom you deserve! – Berit
When I first started to think about travelling – I heard about my friends friend, that was Backpacking Asia by herself. I remember I said that I would LOVE to travel, but NEVER by myself.
After High School, I ended up going to Australia with 2 girlfriends. After 6 months in Sydney, we ended up wanting different things. I decided to go for what I wanted, which lead me in to travelling by myself. I had met some people in Sydney, who were travelling by themselves, so I thought: ok, if they can, I guess, so can I!?
The first week was scary and I felt lonely. And with a great start of missing my bus didn’t make it any better. I remember I was standing in the middle of the bus station crying – The next bus was not untill the day after, and I had already booked accomondation and paid for a tour going out from the new place, the next day! But, no matter how upset you are, if you are forced to find a solution – you do. I ended up getting on a train, then catching another bus, and arrived at the hostel I had booked super late at night. The other people in the hostel were sitting outside together, drinking beer – I just went straigt to bed, cried a bit more, felt VERY sorry for myself and thought “This decision was just stupid..!”
Today, that decision, is one of the best decisions I have ever made! I got pushed out of my comfortzone, and after I started to get comfortable travelling by myself, it’s one of the things I enjoy the most!!
I think travelling by yourself is one thing EVERYONE should do atleast once in their life. Why? I’ll give you 10 reasons!
(All pictures are from my trip in Australia 2011, when I first started to travel by myself)
1 You become independed
When you travel with other people, it’s very easy to rely on them. Let someone else be in charge and take control.
When I’ve been travelling with friends, there have always been one in charge and in control of the tickets, the time we have to leave to catch the train, where to go, the map ++ To be honest, when I have travelled with others, I have always been the one just “following”, literally walking behind them!
When you’re alone, YOU have to fix it. You have to have control and know what’s going on. You have to have the alarm on and get yourself up in the morning to catch your flight…
After a while when you see that you can do all this yourself, you realise you don’t need other people to do anything you want to do in life – you are capable of anything and you can do it by yourself.
2 You’re the Boss!
You can do exactly what YOU want to do! You can go to a place, and if you like it, you can stay! You don’t have to argue with your friend because he/she wants to keep going. Or if you don’t like it – move on! You’re the master of your trip – In the beginning it’s scary, but after a while it’s FREEDOM. AND you will be very satisfied with your trip in the end.
3 You become good at making decisions
If you’re two or more, you can discuss, and find out together what’s best thing to do. Not only where to go, but what is safe? Should I do this? What hotel/hostel should I choose? Do I choose this location or is the other one better?
When you’re by yourself, You’re the one and only making dicisions. Sometimes you will make wrong decisions, but atleast, it was YOUR dicision – and my experience is that when it was yours, it’s also a bigger chance you learn from it, take the experience with you and it will help you taking better decisions in the future.
4 You will Start to trust yourself
As a results of making decisions yourself, you also start to trust yourself. When I first started to travel alone, I called my mum for help, as I was unsure what to do. Now, I make desitions myself. Because I trust myself and I trust my stomach feeling.
5 You will make new friends
When I travelled in a group with others, we bearly met anyone. We were always sticking together. Why? Because it feels safe! And you don’t have to leave your comfortzone, because, well, you have someone to hang out with anyway!
After I started to travel by myself, I have made SO MANY FRIENDS! I can’t even count them! All over the world! And because of social media, it’s super easy to stay in touch. Some of them have become a huge part and impact in my life, and we have met again in different parts of the world.
(The most awesome thing about knowing people all over the world, is when you are going to travel to a new country, and you happend to know people there! How awesome is it to go around with a local, and get to see and experience things that other tourists don’t? I LOVE IT!)
6 You will Understand people better
I would never have met all the types of people I have, in my age, if it was not for travelling by myself. I’ve been in a few situations that have not been fun at all, but today I’m so grateful! Why? Because I have started to understand the different types of people that are out there, and who I should stay away from. I’m so grateful for these happenings, and that they have happend to me in my early twenties – so I don’t have to waste more time of my life with toxic people, and can spend time with those who are genuine.
7 You will be more open minded
When you travel by yourself, you learn to open up and get a bigger understanding and respect for other people. You understand that your opinion is not necassary right – and when you understand this, you open up for other ideas and thoughts. Sometimes it’s actually a bit scary, because you realise that what once used to be the “truth” for you, was just YOUR perspective on it.
This can ofcourse happend if you’re travelling with a friend aswell, but it’s easier to open up when you don’t have any around you to impact your new thoughts about all the new impressions and happenings around you.
8 You will be more grateful
I’ve been grateful before, but not like I am today. By seing other cultures, seing how other people live and work – have made me really FEEL grateful! To look outside your own “life-bobble” – a busy life with work, family, a nice house, expencive cars, shoes, clothes, your BIG everyday problems, like “what you’re going to buy for your boyfriends birthday?”…+++, and understanding that what you have is not a matter of course around the world – does something with you.
9 YOU time
I have found myself through travelling alone. Not that I havn’t been myself before, but when you’re by yourself, you find out what you like, and what you don’t like – without anyone next to you, and their opinion. I have found my values, and what’s important for me – so now I spend more time on what’s important for me, instead of other things! and because of this, I feel happier then ever and I’m so grateful.
10 YOU WILL BE MORE CONFIDENT
When You gather all of the above, you end up with more self-confidence!
You know better who YOU are, what you like, your boundaries, your values, you trust yourself and become better on making your own decisions based on YOU and what YOU want. You get to know your limits, and you understand that your limits can be pushed if you’re willing to leave your comfortzone!
A big reminder for me, is what I started this post with: I was once scared of travelling alone – now it’s the most peaceful and comfortable thing I know. What does this leave me with?
What I’m scared of today, is just a limit that I have, and that can be pushed if I want to 😉
I have understood and started to trust that I can do whatever I put my mind into – without relying on anyone! This has changed my life.
So in my opinion, that alone is reason enough for you to go out there by yourself and explore the world – Berit
Most people have things they would like to change in their lives, But if you keep doing what you’ve always done – how can you expect different results?
To get a change, to get something different, YOU need to change aswell.. Are you willing to change to get what you want?
To go from Koh Lipe to this Beautiful Place…
..Phi Phi Island, Thailand. Crystal clear water, good food, great night life, nice beaches and so many Islands and good spots around that you can visit by a short boat trip or even by kayaking.
<3 Fresh Mango Shake, Have to have atleast one every day!
Todays office. I travel around but I do work aswell – but what is better then doing your work from an ipad, with this view..?
Phi Phi by Night. Full of life! If you like drinks and fire shows at the beach – this is the place for it!
One of the beautiful spots only 30 minutes with a Long tail boat from PhiPhi: Maya Bay (The Island where the movie “The Beach” was filmed). You can get a Long Tail boat for a half day (3 hours) or a full day (6 hours).
Met up with my friend from Norway and her boyfriend in Phi Phi – They are on easter holiday in Thailand. Thanks for a great time guys <3
Long Tail boats at Maya Bay
If you like kayaking you can rent one for 200 bath pr hour, and go around to some nice beaches and bays close to Phi Phi. We rented a kayak for 2 hours and went to Monkey Beach.
There is a big chance to see Monkeys on this beach, unfortunatily we didn’t.. Also, this is one of the best snorkling spots in this area – so bring snorkling gear!
We are all humans, and the fewest of us wake up feeling Super empowered and happy every single morning (or, at least tha’ts not what’s happening for me every day..) So why does it seem like some people are always happier and more satisfied then others??
It all comes down to your thoughts. ONE positive thought can change your whole day.
This doesn’t happend by itself. You have to DESIDE. Not only once a month, or once a week – You have to deside EVERY MORNING, EVERY SINGLE DAY: whatever feeling you wake up with, you’re going to turn it around into something great.
Start Now! Deside that today will be great. Deside that today, you’re going to feel happy and grateful. Deside that you will block all the negativity away so it doesn’t come in your way for you to have a great day. If you meet any naysayers – Instead of letting their negativity impact you – try to impact them instead! Pass on your positive energy! Maybe today, you will not only make your day great, you might even make someone elses day great aswell!:)
This is easier said then done – I know – but it’s possible, and the more you practise this, the less energy it takes to do it. So, what is a good way to get started doing this..?
For me, it’s easier to turn my days around when I start the day with something that gives me energy.
The best way to start the day for me is to watch the sunrise.
It makes me feel alive, it makes me feel grateful for everything I have in my life, and it makes me feel powerful.. It helps me deside, whatever feeling I woke up with, that this day, is going to be AMAZING! (How can it not be, when watching sunrise with my new mate 😉 All pictures are from Koh Lipe, Thailand!)
SO, I CHALLENGE YOU:
Write down what gives you energy, what makes you happy – and do that for 10-15 minutes, every single morning this upcoming week – and see what happens when you start off the day with good thoughts
1) Get up and get ready like you’re going in to the office
This is where a lot of people fail when they start their own home based business, including me.
It’s so easy to sleep in when you’re Working from home, specially if you’re one of those (like me) that loves to sleep and could stay in bed the whole day. No matter how good bed is – if you want to make your home based office work, you need to get up and get ready like you’re going to the office.
Of course you can have days now and then when you don’t dress up – but the days I wake up, get dressed and fix my hair&makeup, are always the days I get most done. It’s all about creating good habits. Get a structure on your day.
(Tips to get out of bed easily: create a dreamboard/visionboard so you know what you’re working for! And when you’re out: Make the bed so it’s not that easy to jump back in.)
2) Have a place to work from
Wherever in the world you are, have a place to work from.
I’ve been travelling and moving around a lot while building my online business – and I can really tell a difference from the hotels/apartments I have stayed where I have had a desk vs the places I have not had one.
If you end up just sitting in your sofa, at the dining table ++ you might start to do other things during your “office” hours: you might see the laundary that you should have done yesterday, or look over at the kitchen bench that is full off stuff you should have cleaned up ++ You can’t focus!
If you set up an “office”, you will sit down and think: Ok, now I’m going to work…
3) Have a plan, set deadlines
When you’re your own boss it’s up to you to get things done. And to get things done you need a plan and deadlines.
If you wake up without a plan – There is a big chance (my experience) That you will waste time on other stuff.. You wake up and don’t really know what you’re up to, so you might aswell sleep a few extra hours, or go and meet some friends, do some extra classes at your gym – and before you know it, the day is over…
If you have a plan, and know exactly what you’re going to get done – you will wake up, and get started on your “To Do” list.
4) If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it First Thing in the morning
When you have your plan ready, It’s so easy to put off the things you don’t like doing, till the end of the day. What will happend in the end of the day is most likely this:
– You don’t have any time left to do it, and you will make up an exuse for yourself so you can justify it: “I did all this other work today, so I guess it’s ok to putt it off untill tomorrow”
– OR If you still have time – you’re tired from all the other things you have done and are not focused like you were in the early morning when you started working – so even if you get the tasks done, it might not be done 100%, and you might not get the results you expected either. This is bad because very often, the tasks that we keep putting in the end of our list, are the most important tasks that will move your business forward!
SO – “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the BIGGEST one first.”
5) “You” time
Some people think working all day will make you more productive. It will not. Choose your hours, and choose those hours you know you are most productive – and work them!
In between – allow yourself to have a break, go for lunch, meet some people – have some YOU time where you turn off all work and think about something else.
Even if you’re super busy, and don’t feel like you have time for this – try – I think you will see that you actaully get more done by taking this break!
Whatever gives you energy and recharges your batteries – Go for it!
Hope this was helpful! These #5 are still helping me to stay focused and to work against my goals as my own boss. Not only from home, but also when I’m out travelling -Berit
When I started my own business, people around me started telling me what I should and should not do. Have the same thing happend to you? Are they:
-Telling you that what you want will never happend?
-Telling you it is a huge risk, that you will loose money?
-Telling you that you’re just another out of so many trying, and it’s a very small chance you will make it?
-Telling you that it’s just a scham?
-Telling you that your naive for believing?
-Telling you you can’t do it?
People are telling you this because they mean well, so don’t get upset with them – just see it as a sign that they care about you! BUT: Who you deside to listen and take advises from, is up to you.
I have one rule, one question for myself before I take advises from anyone:
– Does this person have the kind of life and freedom that I want?
If the answer is no (which it happens to be a lot of times) I’ll just take what the person is saying as a well ment advise, but I’m not going to LISTEN to it.
In my case: I want financial freedom, I want a life without any loans or debt, I want an extraordinary life, I want to travel and be free – If I talk with a person that is stuck in a job he/she hates, has a huge loan/debt, and never travels or have the other things I want in my life, and this person tries to tell me what to do – Why would I EVER listen to and take advises from this person???
If you start asking yourself this question, you’re in control over who impacts you.
If I had listened to all the people trying to give me their “good” advises a few years back – I would have missed out on:
-Quitting my 9-5, Monday-Friday job
-Having my own business
-Moving back to Australia
-Having the freedom to work and travel
-Being on my way to become financial free
-Meeting HUNDREDS of new, amazing people
-Getting a better health, less stress
-Getting a positive attitude and mindset
-Helping others and making a difference
…and they told me I would loose..?
Be careful Who you deside to listen to and take advises from.. If you believe you can do it, you can.
How would you feel if you knew you would never have to have a JOB again? Would it be nice if you could “fire” your boss?? So you could be your own instead, and never again go into the office every Monday?
Does these thoughts make you excited? keep reading!
A few years ago, I had no idea what to do with my life. After I finished High School, everyone around me went to University or started to work. I wanted something else, I just didn’t know what or where to start.
I ended up going to Australia on a Working Holiday Visa. This changed my life. I lived a life with a freedom I had never experienced before. I travelled, Had casual jobs, met people, had fun and learned so much more about myself and life, then I ever felt I did back in school.
In 2011, after 1 year on this Visa, I was broke, had no job and my Visa was running out. So, I saw no other option then to go home. Back to Norway. Back to reality. For the first time in my life, I started to work Monday to Friday, in a 9-5 job – And I hated it. I looked at the calendar, 2 weeks went by that felt like 2 years, and I asked myself: Is this what I’m going to do, the next 40 years of my life? Is this all life is about? I hated Mondays and looked forward to every weekend.. I felt like going to bed at night and stay there for forever.
I have always looked forward to be an adult, so I could make my own desitions and do what I wanted – but at this moment, I remember I felt that the saying “Dont grow up, it’s a trap” was true..
Then I was introduced to an online, international business. It didn’t take me long to deside if I should do it or not. For me, the thought of being free, working online over sosial media, after my schedule – was almost to good to be true! I saw that I would have to put in time and effort, and that it would take work to make it happend – something that was totally fine with me. I thought, I have to work anyway? So why not put in time and effort in my own business?
The company I’m with, has allowed me to quit my 9-5 job, to be wherever I want to be, work online through social media. The business has made it possible for me to follow my dreams, so in 2014 I went back to Australia, and been based in Sydney since.
Even if I work – and I work strange, and probably longer hours then a lot of my friends, but because I’m so passionated about what I’m doing, because I love the people I work with, and because I’m having so much fun building my business, for my life and my future – I feel like I’m on a never ending vacation!
My passion is travelling – How would you feel if you could book a one way ticket to a new country, and stay as long as you wanted? Wouldn’t it be awesome?? That is one thing this business has done for me! The last few months (nov.2014-feb.2016) I’ve been to Singapore, Indonesia, Thailand and atm I’m in Malaysia! After this I’m meeting a friend in Thailand, then catching up with a few friends in Bali before returning to Sydney – I NEVER Thought a normal person like me could have a freedom like this..
I’m sharing this, because I know there are so many young people out there, with the same thoughts about Work and life as me. Maybe you are stuck in a job you don’t want to be in, in a place where you don’t want to be.
Also, the security around having a job is not the same today as it used to be. It’s hard to find a job today, and even if you do – are you 100% sure your job will be there tomorrow..? Do you have a plan B?
The only reason I’m not there anymore, is because someone told me something else excisted! Teached me how to create an income, without being employed or without having a boss! Am I Grateful? Oh yeah!!! And thats the reason why I’m sharing.
The reason this is possible today, is because the WORLD IS CHANGING!! New doors and opportunities that we never knew about before!! It might be a good idea to think outside the box!
I know, with all my heart, that this is possible for you aswell. Why? Because I have it, and there is nothing special about me! The only difference between you and me, is that I’ve already made my desition. Other then that – we’re the same.
Are you hard working, passionated about life, travelling, meeting people and want something else then a Monday- Friday, 9-5 job for the next 40 years? Do you have a dream? And do you want to put in time and effort in YOUR business? Feel free to get in touch with me. Always nice to connect with like minded people, and maybe we can help eachother out.
Whatever your dreams are, big or small, as soon as you start to work against them, deside that no matter what, you will keep going!! Nothing worth having comes easy, keep going!!
You never know how close you are.. Promise yourself that this is not going to be you! – Berit