What everyone should do at least once!

When I first started to think about travelling – I heard about my friends friend, that was Backpacking Asia by herself. I remember I said that I would LOVE to travel, but NEVER by myself.

After High School, I ended up going to Australia with 2 girlfriends. After 6 months in Sydney, we ended up wanting different things. I decided to go for what I wanted, which lead me in to travelling by myself. I had met some people in Sydney, who were travelling by themselves, so I thought: ok, if they can, I guess, so can I!?

The first week was scary and I felt lonely. And with a great start of missing my bus didn’t make it any better. I remember I was standing in the middle of the bus station crying – The next bus was not untill the day after, and I had already booked accomondation and paid for a tour going out from the new place, the next day! But, no matter how upset you are, if you are forced to find a solution – you do. I ended up getting on a train, then catching another bus, and arrived at the hostel I had booked super late at night. The other people in the hostel were sitting outside together, drinking beer – I just went straigt to bed, cried a bit more, felt VERY sorry for myself and thought “This decision was just stupid..!”

Today, that decision, is one of the best decisions I have ever made! I got pushed out of my comfortzone, and after I started to get comfortable travelling by myself, it’s one of the things I enjoy the most!!

I think travelling by yourself is one thing EVERYONE should do atleast once in their life. Why? I’ll give you 10 reasons!

(All pictures are from my trip in Australia 2011, when I first started to travel by myself)

image1 You become independed
When you travel with other people, it’s very easy to rely on them. Let someone else be in charge and take control.
When I’ve been travelling with friends, there have always been one in charge and in control of the tickets, the time we have to leave to catch the train, where to go, the map ++ To be honest, when I have travelled with others, I have always been the one just “following”, literally walking behind them!
When you’re alone, YOU have to fix it. You have to have control and know what’s going on. You have to have the alarm on and get yourself up in the morning to catch your flight…
After a while when you see that you can do all this yourself, you realise you don’t need other people to do anything you want to do in life – you are capable of anything and you can do it by yourself.
image2 You’re the Boss!
You can do exactly what YOU want to do! You can go to a place, and if you like it, you can stay! You don’t have to argue with your friend because he/she wants to keep going. Or if you don’t like it – move on! You’re the master of your trip – In the beginning it’s scary, but after a while it’s FREEDOM. AND you will be very satisfied with your trip in the end.
image3 You become good at making decisions
If you’re two or more, you can discuss, and find out together what’s best thing to do. Not only where to go, but what is safe? Should I do this? What hotel/hostel should I choose? Do I choose this location or is the other one better?
When you’re by yourself, You’re the one and only making dicisions. Sometimes you will make wrong decisions, but atleast, it was YOUR dicision – and my experience is that when it was yours, it’s also a bigger chance you learn from it, take the experience with you and it will help you taking better decisions in the future.
image4 You will Start to trust yourself
As a results of making decisions yourself, you also start to trust yourself. When I first started to travel alone, I called my mum for help, as I was unsure what to do. Now, I make desitions myself. Because I trust myself and I trust my stomach feeling.
image5 You will make new friends
When I travelled in a group with others, we bearly met anyone. We were always sticking together. Why? Because it feels safe! And you don’t have to leave your comfortzone, because, well, you have someone to hang out with anyway!
After I started to travel by myself, I have made SO MANY FRIENDS! I can’t even count them! All over the world! And because of social media, it’s super easy to stay in touch. Some of them have become a huge part and impact in my life, and we have met again in different parts of the world.
(The most awesome thing about knowing people all over the world, is when you are going to travel to a new country, and you happend to know people there! How awesome is it to go around with a local, and get to see and experience things that other tourists don’t? I LOVE IT!)

image6 You will Understand people better
I would never have met all the types of people I have, in my age, if it was not for travelling by myself. I’ve been in a few situations that have not been fun at all, but today I’m so grateful! Why? Because I have started to understand the different types of people that are out there, and who I should stay away from. I’m so grateful for these happenings, and that they have happend to me in my early twenties – so I don’t have to waste more time of my life with toxic people, and can spend time with those who are genuine.
image7 You will be more open minded
When you travel by yourself, you learn to open up and get a bigger understanding and respect for other people. You understand that your opinion is not necassary right – and when you understand this, you open up for other ideas and thoughts. Sometimes it’s actually a bit scary, because you realise that what once used to be the “truth” for you, was just YOUR perspective on it.
This can ofcourse happend if you’re travelling with a friend aswell, but it’s easier to open up when you don’t have any around you to impact your new thoughts about all the new impressions and happenings around you.

image8 You will be more grateful
I’ve been grateful before, but not like I am today. By seing other cultures, seing how other people live and work – have made me really FEEL grateful! To look outside your own “life-bobble” – a busy life with work, family, a nice house, expencive cars, shoes, clothes, your BIG everyday problems, like “what you’re going to buy for your boyfriends birthday?”…+++, and understanding that what you have is not a matter of course around the world – does something with you.
image9 YOU time
I have found myself through travelling alone. Not that I havn’t been myself before, but when you’re by yourself, you find out what you like, and what you don’t like – without anyone next to you, and their opinion. I have found my values, and what’s important for me – so now I spend more time on what’s important for me, instead of other things! and because of this, I feel happier then ever and I’m so grateful.
image10 YOU WILL BE MORE CONFIDENT
When You gather all of the above, you end up with more self-confidence!
You know better who YOU are, what you like, your boundaries, your values, you trust yourself and become better on making your own decisions based on YOU and what YOU want. You get to know your limits, and you understand that your limits can be pushed if you’re willing to leave your comfortzone!

A big reminder for me, is what I started this post with: I was once scared of travelling alone – now it’s the most peaceful and comfortable thing I know. What does this leave me with?
What I’m scared of today, is just a limit that I have, and that can be pushed if I want to 😉
I have understood and started to trust that I can do whatever I put my mind into – without relying on anyone! This has changed my life.

So in my opinion, that alone is reason enough for you to go out there by yourself and explore the world – Berit

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Why you don’t get support when you’re doing something “different”

After High School I had 1 year working and travelling in Australia – Then I came home to Norway and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. The only thing I knew was: I don’t want a normal Monday-Friday job, and I don’t want to go back to school..

I came across an online business, and with no idea HOW I was going to do it, I had a stomach feeling that it was right for me – so I got started. The hardest thing for me, when I started to tell people around me about my ideas and plans, was that most of the people I thought would support me, didn’t. I remember I felt so disappointed and sad…

After years, going against the “normal”, I’m totally fine with not getting support from everyone around me. Why?

I have found that the reason they don’t act supportive is not because they don’t care, or are bad people. It’s not because they don’t believe in me. And It’s not because they don’t want me to succeed, or because they try to “destroy” my dreams and plans..

It’s because they don’t fully understand. And that is nothing for me or you to be upset about.

People that loves you, and that don’t fully understand why you are doing what you are doing – are just showing that they care by telling you they are concerned. Take this as a good thing instead of being disappointed, and know that you don’t need anyones support to get where you want to be in life :)

Believe in yourself and go for it!
(And know that they will all come back and support you when you succeed ;)) – Berit
image(Sunset at Koh Lipe, Thailand with one of the beach dogs ;)lovelove)

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Want to be your own boss?

How would you feel if you knew you would never have to have a JOB again? Would it be nice if you could “fire” your boss?? So you could be your own instead, and never again go into the office every Monday?

Does these thoughts make you excited? keep reading!

imageA few years ago, I had no idea what to do with my life. After I finished High School, everyone around me went to University or started to work. I wanted something else, I just didn’t know what or where to start.
I ended up going to Australia on a Working Holiday Visa. This changed my life. I lived a life with a freedom I had never experienced before. I travelled, Had casual jobs, met people, had fun and learned so much more about myself and life, then I ever felt I did back in school.
In 2011, after 1 year on this Visa, I was broke, had no job and my Visa was running out. So, I saw no other option then to go home. Back to Norway. Back to reality. For the first time in my life, I started to work Monday to Friday, in a 9-5 job – And I hated it. I looked at the calendar, 2 weeks went by that felt like 2 years, and I asked myself: Is this what I’m going to do, the next 40 years of my life? Is this all life is about? I hated Mondays and looked forward to every weekend.. I felt like going to bed at night and stay there for forever.
I have always looked forward to be an adult, so I could make my own desitions and do what I wanted – but at this moment, I remember I felt that the saying “Dont grow up, it’s a trap” was true..

Then I was introduced to an online, international business. It didn’t take me long to deside if I should do it or not. For me, the thought of being free, working online over sosial media, after my schedule – was almost to good to be true! I saw that I would have to put in time and effort, and that it would take work to make it happend – something that was totally fine with me. I thought, I have to work anyway? So why not put in time and effort in my own business?
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The company I’m with, has allowed me to quit my 9-5 job, to be wherever I want to be, work online through social media. The business has made it possible for me to follow my dreams, so in 2014 I went back to Australia, and been based in Sydney since.
Even if I work – and I work strange, and probably longer hours then a lot of my friends, but because I’m so passionated about what I’m doing, because I love the people I work with, and because I’m having so much fun building my business, for my life and my future – I feel like I’m on a never ending vacation!

My passion is travelling – How would you feel if you could book a one way ticket to a new country, and stay as long as you wanted? Wouldn’t it be awesome?? That is one thing this business has done for me! The last few months (nov.2014-feb.2016) I’ve been to Singapore, Indonesia, Thailand and atm I’m in Malaysia! After this I’m meeting a friend in Thailand, then catching up with a few friends in Bali before returning to Sydney – I NEVER Thought a normal person like me could have a freedom like this..
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I’m sharing this, because I know there are so many young people out there, with the same thoughts about Work and life as me. Maybe you are stuck in a job you don’t want to be in, in a place where you don’t want to be.
Also, the security around having a job is not the same today as it used to be. It’s hard to find a job today, and even if you do – are you 100% sure your job will be there tomorrow..? Do you have a plan B?

The only reason I’m not there anymore, is because someone told me something else excisted! Teached me how to create an income, without being employed or without having a boss! Am I Grateful? Oh yeah!!! And thats the reason why I’m sharing.
The reason this is possible today, is because the WORLD IS CHANGING!! New doors and opportunities that we never knew about before!! It might be a good idea to think outside the box!
I know, with all my heart, that this is possible for you aswell. Why? Because I have it, and there is nothing special about me! The only difference between you and me, is that I’ve already made my desition. Other then that – we’re the same.

Are you hard working, passionated about life, travelling, meeting people and want something else then a Monday- Friday, 9-5 job for the next 40 years? Do you have a dream? And do you want to put in time and effort in YOUR business? Feel free to get in touch with me. Always nice to connect with like minded people, and maybe we can help eachother out.

If you want something else then what you’re having, the timing is NOW! All you need is Wifi & a Dream!!
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– Berit

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What story are you telling yourself?

imageWhat is holding you back from living your life to the fullest? To reach your full potential??

When I have had no progress in my life – it’s always ME, and ONLY ME!!, standing in my way!
Me, and the bullshit I keep telling myself – “this is not for me”, “I can’t do this”, “I don’t know enough”, “I’m not the right person”, “I don’t have what it takes”, “What will other people say”, “What if I fail?”, “I don’t have the right qualities” Blablablaaaaaa BULLSHIT!

Get rid of all these thoughts! Stop telling yourself all these BULLSHIT STORIES – they are stopping you from getting where you want to be!

I have one GOLDEN RULE for my self-talk:
– Only tell yourself what you would say to your friends.
If you told your friend “nah, don’t think you can finnish that master degree, you should just quit.. ” – Do you think you would have many friends left?? I don’t think so!!
Fix your self-talk, start being nice to yourself, appreciate all the good qualities you have instead of focusing on the negatives – Believe in yourself the way you believe in your friends. MAGIC will happend!!

Have a great Monday <3 And today, and everyday from now, start to tell yourself that you are AWESOME and can accomplish whatever you set your mind to!! No more Bullshit! 😉

-Berit

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Life can be so much broader…

Everyday, most people wake up and do all the things they HAVE to do. All the things that everyone else are doing. All the normal, everyday tasks. And thats why people do it without even asking a question – because, everyone are doing it..? And thats life..?

I believe there is nothing you HAVE to do. You don’t HAVE to go to school. You don’t HAVE to go to your job that you hate.
Of course, there will be consequences if you don’t do these things- but there are always CHOICES – it is up to you to chose one of them, it is your desition! And this will create your life..

Life will give you exactly what you’re asking for. You create your own reality, and you create how you want to live. Don’t live a life that someone else created. That’s their life. You go out there and create your own. Make desitions that are right for you – and start to LIVE your life.
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Simply love this, by Steve Jobs:

“Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact, and that is everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it. You can influence it”

-Berit

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